Judgemental about tact

People ask me why am i so damn 'chat' judgemental. I'm particular harsh on the subject of tact in the social environment. When i see somebody doing something out of the normal social convention, unknowingly making it awkward or hurting/offending someone, I would have F1 racer type thoughts in my head instantly.

For this particular issue of tact, I can say that the reason i'm particularly harsh is because of my past. Since I used to not care what other people think, brutal truth and all, it took me awhile to get out of those habits and join the lane of tactful people. (ironically, NOW i care too much about what other people think. Its like a freaking pendulum swinging from one end to the other)

Even then, more often than not, I still screw up because it doesn't come naturally to me. So when I see other people doing it, it's like looking into a mirror of my past self. Who likes to be reminded of that?

Gen Y's overcontrolling (asian) parents

Ministry of education is wondering why many Malaysians go overseas for their tertiary education. One obvious reason is that our public universities are not up to standard. This subject has been debated to death. But, consider this!

The overcontrolling parents of our generation (Gen Y) are not helping. I know of many people who go overseas for the freedom aspect. Imagine, even when your 21, you still have concepts of curfew which is mind-boggling because when you were overseas at the age of 19, you stayed out until whatever-the-hell-time-you-want and still didn't manage to die.

Girls, in particular, are feeling the brunt of it. Many that are studying overseas feel reluctant to come HOME because they say it is like going back to prison. Sure its a comfy prison with many perks, especially safety and support but they prefer to work in the foreign country they studied in because it is foreseen that even when they start working (at the age of 22-23), they still will have a CURFEW as well as other regulations.

Alas, another reason to why people study overseas and stay there.

The scariest thing in life

Cultural Difference

Its funny how different cultures have ways of doing things.

To preserve safety of their homes, Malaysians have high walls surrounding their homes, with spikes on them. They attach metal grills on their windows and doors. All this to ward off intruders. The country also bans the ownership of guns unless for sports.

However, USA see things differently. From shows that I have watched, I can't understand why they need guns to protect themselves but they don't need a wall surrounding their house. You can practically just kicked down their doors for sport. (Of course I'm talking about the middle class income people here. The super rich have big walls and all that)

So i had to ponder this aspect of the American culture. There must be a reason to it. Here are the possibilities that I would one day, if I ever had the time, use as my hypothesis in my research.

1. A gun cost much less than walls and grills
2. Americans forsee an overpopulation in the near future. Figured this is the best way to keep it down without the cost of regulation. Besides, mostly criminals will be killed anyway.
3. Americans want people to break into their house to add some excitement into life.
4. Americans it to be a teeny-weeny bit easier for people to feel welcomed to drop by.
5. Americans feel claustrophobic relatively easier compared to Malaysians
6. Amercians realized that walls and grills are hazardous if a fire occurs. You will be trapped, or at least, it will slow down your escape.

Well, this is just on the top of my mind. I just want to stress that I'm not making fun of the Americans. I just wanted to see what reasonings I could come up with before I actually do research and find out the real reason. Who knows ? My deductions could be proven true.

Halleujah to coffee and alcohol !

New Decade. New Look. New concept. Yes, that means you, bloggie !







Fun Fact #1 : I seem to have "more interest in people" or "conversation material" flows better to me only when I am "under the influence"

• coffee - makes me super energetic. Under normal circumstances, I can't muster up the energy to care for people, so don't even start about meeting NEW people. Yet, caffeine seems to have the magical power to energize me enough to think of topics to connect with people.


• alcohol - perfect for awkward moments when I'm uncomfortable with the person. opposite of coffee. makes me think less, meaning I won't overanalyze if my words will offend the person. Hence, more natural with the person. Warning: Benefits last 1 hour only. then, it is time to sleep!

Reflections : I'm not as good as I thought I was, but I'm not as bad either.