Who will be the Sky King?

Same Face = Same Attitude

I starting to feel like the traditional chinese believe that you can predict how someone can act just by looking at their facial features is true after all. Seriously, don't you always get the feeling that people with the same face usually have the same attitdue ? Of course I understand that there are exceptions to the rule but that doesn't disprove that there might be some corelation between these 2 factors.

Everyone of have had this experience when you meet someone new, you may have certain expectation or stereotypes of his attitude based on his looks. This is partly because your brain assimilates this person with a person that you previously know that had acted in a certain way. Probably one of the few flaws of our brain that like to subconciously slot things into existing categories instead of making new ones although the basis for it may not be very objective. (of course there is an upside to why it works this way too, though I won't elaborate on it)

Anyway, when the person actually acts like what you expected, it is not suprising but rather very predictable and boring. This phenomenon happens about 50% of the time or more (abritary judgement from my experience) which I feel is enough to disaprove the notion that you can't judge a book by its cover.

So does this mean that your face determines your fate? Does your face determine your personality?

I like not to think so since i don't believe in the idea that fate is predestined. I am living proof that you can change your attitude and behaviour. So maybe we have been looking at it the wrong way. Maybe it is your attitude that shapes your face. Maybe your ruthlessness since young is the one that gave you that wide, square jaw.

Maybe thats why when you see someone with that "chiooon" or "lanci" look (cantonese lingo), you already know you dislike him. Maybe it is one of nature's natural mechanism to enable humans to know who like and dislike easier.

In short, those people who behave in a certain way may have shaped their face in a certain way.

Of course biologist, anthropology and a lot more categories of scientist would probably dismiss this theory as hogwash. Everybody knows that our facial features are determined by our genes.

However, I still think that it is a valid hypothesis worth pondering. It is back to the arguement of "Nature Vs Environment " and which of the factors affect the result more.

If this hypothesis ever helped someone win the noble prize in the next century or so, I hope that person gives credit to me for predicting this possible phenomenon. =)

No.1 hated thing (at least for the next 3 years)

The No.1 thing that i hate the most is *drum roll* *hold your breath....it is going to be long sentence*

People who make snide remarks/or THAT look like you are suppose to know something when you clearly ARE not suppose to know it!

Understood it yet? need to read it again.. It's ok! I can wait. Take your time!

On the same page? good! Don't you agree?

Typical scenario usually goes like this. Person who knows his plan/work/activity he has in mind will ask you to do something. You, obviously either new or oblivious to his plan, ask him questions on how it works. Then THAT person will laugh/taunt/scold you for not knowing what is suppose to "clearly obvious". What the f*ck is up with that?

Of course you don't know. You're not suppose to know!How are you suppose to know? Read the f*cker's mind? Idiots!!!

Did you get a briefing on it? or training? or an SOP to read ? instruction manual ? If not, then just ask that person to shut the f*ck up and to just answer the f*king question!

The very fact that the person is asking should be commended. Firstly, at least he is brave enough to show that he doesn't know and appear ignorant. Secondly, he is not assuming anything which is good because certain assumptions have led to very big cock-ups.

Lastly, does it take much effort to answer a "stupid" question ? If it is a "stupid" question, it probably has a straight forward "smart" answer. Of course it is only a stupid question in an idiot's eyes!

Too cheesy!!!

My honest opinion is that the concept of romance in our modern age (mark the date, june 2010) is really in danger. With the over-exposure of romantic dramas,series, songs and the like, it seems the so-called "traditional" things we do are considered too cheesy or boring. Expectation has been elevated to levels that are not realistic.

In fact, due to the exponential increase, especially movies, of romantic media stories almost everything we do is considered cheesy. Everyone is trying to create a tagline that can be replay over and over again until it becomes *gawsh-oh-so-romantic* phrase.Case in point.

"You complete me!" "You had me at...hello!" -Jerry Maguire

You get the idea right? The ultimate speech at the climax that needs to be done in order to rescure the relationship. It's the transition phase from "boy FIGHT with girl" to "boy get BACK together with girl."

Now imagine this! If you are at your own wedding, giving a speech/vows about your loved one, and you say "I love you!" or "I want to be with you forever" or "we will live happily ever after". Some people are going to think "LAME!!!!"

I don't blame them. They were conditioned into it as far as I am concerned. As direct result from this fear of being judged as "Lame", one might succumb to the pressure and try to give some fantasticly funny or good speech even though it might not be in his/her calibre to do so. Then what happens? They crash and burn due to various reasons, such as making inappropiate jokes or having too much puffery.

Others might just crack under the pressure and won't even be able to enjoy their own wedding speech. Probably taking the safest route by giving a generic, thoughtless speech.

Heck!!! I bet many people these days refrain from saying "I love you" at times just because its overused.... EVERYWHERE. Ads, Billboards, Cards, SMS, Movies, Songs, Books, Brochures.... you name it, it is there! Right in your FACE!!!

Its sad day when saying the most truest words from ones inner-self is considered not original. Considered not poetic enough. Honestly, how did we let this happen?

I am spreading the awareness. Starting from now! Sticking to boring "I love you" as a *ahem* tagline for the rest of my life. Why? Because it is important not to get caught up in all the creativity and media hype.Because it is important to take a stand. Because you should say what you mean. Because it is clear and concise. Because ladies like to hear it no matter what.

Too Boring or cheesy ? well don't blame me. Blame society!!!